I wonder how it is percieved if a student does not attend the course in which attendance is not taken.
I am a PhD student and I skipped most of the classes of two courses. Now, both of the instructors are mad at me. I got an F because in oral exam, I could not explain only one point in a chapter, after explaining the rest correctly, by the professor’s judgement.
And, other one ignores me when I try to greet him, opposed to 3-4 weeks ago. Now that I have very strictly judged and not very fairly graded by the first one (F means zero points), I am now afraid the second one would grade the oral exam biased, based on his behavior.
Is it really natural and legit for them to behave so? What can I do to turn it around and convince people that my intention was not to offend them? They probably think I am a big head who just moved into country and thinks he knows better than all. Which is totally wrong. It is a very very bad habit of me not to attend lectures which I have studied and/or those are conceptual.
To clear out some points in the comments, let me explain my train of thought:
1) I think it is pretty vengeful to deliberately refuse a greetings from a colleague whose office is at the same floor. Even though if we only consider teacher-student relationship, what would you think of a student who you greeted by looking directly into the eyes, if he/she turns his/her head and moves on with an extremely dull expression? Isn’t this vengefulness?
2) As an example, suppose that a professor is speaking English with a really bad accent and nearly without grammar. Students would expect him to speak clearly, but it is ultimately faculty committee that they should be angry with since their hiring criteria are not very good. Being angry with the instructor himself is pointless. Similarly, if university policy requires not to take attendance and a professor wants students to attend, it is a university policy matter. I don’t say everyone should like everyone, but I think it is not proper to get angry with someone because that someone uses their free will.
3) Is attending the classes a matter of respect? I think not. At the end of the day, professors are paid to be in that very room to teach that specific subject, and students, according to university rules and policy, did not make a promise to attend these classes. The professors are not doing favor to the students. On one side, there is a duty, on the other side there is free will. If I attend the class and do not listen, I think this is worse.